I've been in a little over a year and I've learned some really helpful tips on how to make life long besties as a military spouse. I understand the difficulties you go through when you've just PCS'd and you're trying to make new friends, so I have taken it upon myself to write up a few tips that will help you military wives!
I hope these help you in your journey to make life long friends.
1. Join a social networking site that is run by wives, like on Facebook, this will help you get in the group and start to meet new ladies.
2. Once you're in said groups, introduce yourself, make sure you use your full name, because we all know it's not prominently shown on your Facebook, announce your husbands rank. If you are an officer wife, you are better than enlisted wives so act that way please. Enlisted wives, if your husbands rank is higher than other wives, treat them like crap and like you're above them, because heck, you went through 13 weeks of hell beside your husband so obviously you wear his rank!! :)
3.Agree with every single thing other people say! It is very important not to have a mind of your own! And don't you dare have a different opinion from other people. I'm not saying it's bad, I'm just saying never ever ever ever post your different opinion or speak your mind to other ladies, they wont like that they're wrong or that you don't like the way they act.
4. Remember how you and your girlfriends acted in kindergarten? Nothing has changed! If your friend doesn't like someone you absolutely cannot like them either! Remember that!!
5. Keep with attitudes, remember how you and your girlfriends acted in high school? Again NOTHING HAS CHANGED!!! It's like Christmas right, this blog is the gift that keeps giving. Start awful rumors about the other ladies you've met! Start drama because someone disagrees with your opinion! Be a mean girl, everyone loves a mean girl!
6. It is a MUST that you talk about people behind their backs and then act like you're best friends! Be careful who you gossip with though! They might be one of those bad mature grown up losers who doesn't like drama and that could be bad!
7.I know you love your husband and all, psht yeah right who am I kidding, you're not a good military wife until you have 12 lovers, so make sure you're keeping count, the other ladies wont like you if you're true to your partner!
I hope this list has helped you in making your new BFF's! Please comment below if you have any other tips!
Sunday, August 28, 2011
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Teen Mom
No prologue, just diving in.
I don't understand why people are against the show Teen Mom.
Yes they're teenagers having children
Yes, its a bad choice.
Maybe it glorifies having sex and ending up with a kid.
Let me throw out an idea I thought was obvious. They're gonna do it anyway!
***This is in no way meant to be offensive, it's what my personal feelings are on the subject.
If your child has no morals and decides to be a slut when they're 15 then that's kind of your problem. You should have raised them better. Granted a teenager is going to do what ever they want, but if you teach them about abstinence, condoms and birth control, and the consequences of not practicing safe sex and/or no sex they're most likely going to make better choices.
"But they should know about those kinds of things already. I heard they teach that in school."
Most likely your child goes to a public school, I was fortunate enough to go to a great public school, public schools are NOTORIOUS for saying they teach when in all actuality they don't. Don't count on your child's school to do YOUR job as a parent.
Fact: The last part of a child's (including a teenager) brain to develop is the frontal lobe. The frontal lobe is where we reason with consequences. As adults-most of us, can choose not to do something because we see that there are consequences of doing said action.
A teenager has not developed that part of their brain fully so they cannot make proper choices for themselves. You, as a parent, must step up to the title and act like a parent, not a friend.
Teen Mom shows what it's like to have a child at such a young age, you have to live on your own, if your family isn't supportive, the father almost always leaves. True love doesn't exist at 15. Some times you have to put your child up for adoption which is hard enough, so being a child going through that, I can't begin to imagine what that feels like.
Stop saying Teen Mom glorifies teenage pregnancy.
"Teen pregnancy is 100% preventable." I believe MTV states this after every commercial break, but it shouldn't be their job to tell your child. You need to.
Grow up and be a parent. A parent of YOUR child, not everyone else's.
I don't understand why people are against the show Teen Mom.
Yes they're teenagers having children
Yes, its a bad choice.
Maybe it glorifies having sex and ending up with a kid.
Let me throw out an idea I thought was obvious. They're gonna do it anyway!
***This is in no way meant to be offensive, it's what my personal feelings are on the subject.
If your child has no morals and decides to be a slut when they're 15 then that's kind of your problem. You should have raised them better. Granted a teenager is going to do what ever they want, but if you teach them about abstinence, condoms and birth control, and the consequences of not practicing safe sex and/or no sex they're most likely going to make better choices.
"But they should know about those kinds of things already. I heard they teach that in school."
Most likely your child goes to a public school, I was fortunate enough to go to a great public school, public schools are NOTORIOUS for saying they teach when in all actuality they don't. Don't count on your child's school to do YOUR job as a parent.
Fact: The last part of a child's (including a teenager) brain to develop is the frontal lobe. The frontal lobe is where we reason with consequences. As adults-most of us, can choose not to do something because we see that there are consequences of doing said action.
A teenager has not developed that part of their brain fully so they cannot make proper choices for themselves. You, as a parent, must step up to the title and act like a parent, not a friend.
Teen Mom shows what it's like to have a child at such a young age, you have to live on your own, if your family isn't supportive, the father almost always leaves. True love doesn't exist at 15. Some times you have to put your child up for adoption which is hard enough, so being a child going through that, I can't begin to imagine what that feels like.
Stop saying Teen Mom glorifies teenage pregnancy.
"Teen pregnancy is 100% preventable." I believe MTV states this after every commercial break, but it shouldn't be their job to tell your child. You need to.
Grow up and be a parent. A parent of YOUR child, not everyone else's.
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
I don't need a title, I'm sure you all know what this is going to be about.
While typing this I'm listening to AC/DC- You Shook Me All Night Long. I thought it was some what fitting, especially this line:
"'Cause The Walls Start Shaking
The Earth Was Quaking"
"'Cause The Walls Start Shaking
The Earth Was Quaking"
If you have internet or a T.V. I'm sure you've heard about the Earthquake in Virginia. Let me first start off by saying, I really really really dislike it when other people try to negate or lessen other peoples feeling's towards something. I don't care if you're joking, but just because something doesn't matter to you doesn't mean it doesn't matter to someone. Just because you're from California, or you didn't feel it doesn't mean thousands of other people are wimps. Shut your mouth.
Onward.
Being from Georgia, we don't have those really, we feel tremors and tiny Earthquakes if anything. Nothing bad, now if you say, "Hey there's a tornado coming," awesome, I'm set -still freaked out- but I'm used to it and can deal with it and most likely will be over it in twenty or thirty minutes. I've been through plenty of bad weather by myself, it's awful, but I've managed just fine.
When we PCS'd to VA Earthquakes didn't cross my mind, blizzards did, the Earth moving? Not so much. Apparently VA is pretty active for it's location. Surprise Surprise, they should put that on their website "Virginia is for Lovers andalsotheoccasionalEarthquake. Welcome to the cardinal state." *Insert cheesy smile here*
Being from Georgia, we don't have those really, we feel tremors and tiny Earthquakes if anything. Nothing bad, now if you say, "Hey there's a tornado coming," awesome, I'm set -still freaked out- but I'm used to it and can deal with it and most likely will be over it in twenty or thirty minutes. I've been through plenty of bad weather by myself, it's awful, but I've managed just fine.
When we PCS'd to VA Earthquakes didn't cross my mind, blizzards did, the Earth moving? Not so much. Apparently VA is pretty active for it's location. Surprise Surprise, they should put that on their website "Virginia is for Lovers andalsotheoccasionalEarthquake. Welcome to the cardinal state." *Insert cheesy smile here*
That wasn't in the tourist booklet.
Any who, I was in bed, "SACRE BLEU!! you were in bed at 151?!" Yes yes I was, jealous? Good.
My house is located DIRECTLY next to train tracks, we have one large train that goes by and honestly will shake my house (my house is teeny tiny and 80 years old.)
I'm going to try to give a play by play.
In bed minding my own business, Simba starts growling, what I thought was the train starts vibrating the house, Simba starts barking (Simba NEVER barks at the trains mush less growl) "What the heck Simba shut up. Wait I'm in the bed room, the train doesn't shake the bed room.. Whats going---.' The entire house literally starts swaying back and forth. "Shit." my heart sink, "These are the worst tremors I've felt from an Earthquake." Jumps out of bed. "These aren't tremors." pull open the door run to the front door, and what do i do? Let the dogs out and close the door.... yeah. Not really sure why I didn't go outside with them.
My phone rings I run to get it, "Are you okay?" Devin called from work, Devin never calls from work. "Turn on the news or go online, we don't have internet. They're evacuating people." WTF?! Evacuating people!? I thought he was talking about civi's not people in his building. "The T.V. isn't working." "Call me if you hear anything." *click*
There is nothing online about the quake i just felt except for on USGS, and I don't know how to read that stuff. Thankfully the T.V in the bedroom was working. My phone rings again, "Hey are you okay?" My brother in DC. I go through that again.
I try calling my mom, but cant get through, which means I wont be able to get in touch with Devin at all if i need to. Awesome.
My house is located DIRECTLY next to train tracks, we have one large train that goes by and honestly will shake my house (my house is teeny tiny and 80 years old.)
I'm going to try to give a play by play.
In bed minding my own business, Simba starts growling, what I thought was the train starts vibrating the house, Simba starts barking (Simba NEVER barks at the trains mush less growl) "What the heck Simba shut up. Wait I'm in the bed room, the train doesn't shake the bed room.. Whats going---.' The entire house literally starts swaying back and forth. "Shit." my heart sink, "These are the worst tremors I've felt from an Earthquake." Jumps out of bed. "These aren't tremors." pull open the door run to the front door, and what do i do? Let the dogs out and close the door.... yeah. Not really sure why I didn't go outside with them.
My phone rings I run to get it, "Are you okay?" Devin called from work, Devin never calls from work. "Turn on the news or go online, we don't have internet. They're evacuating people." WTF?! Evacuating people!? I thought he was talking about civi's not people in his building. "The T.V. isn't working." "Call me if you hear anything." *click*
There is nothing online about the quake i just felt except for on USGS, and I don't know how to read that stuff. Thankfully the T.V in the bedroom was working. My phone rings again, "Hey are you okay?" My brother in DC. I go through that again.
I try calling my mom, but cant get through, which means I wont be able to get in touch with Devin at all if i need to. Awesome.
That was the bulk of my day so far. Not looking forward to the aftershocks.
My heart went out to the people in Japan, I've prayed for them every single night since the day it happened, don't believe me? I have OCD I have to do it, until everything is fixed. no joke. After going through something not even close to what they went through I can't begin to imagine what it must have been like for them. I can honestly say I have never been so scared in my life, I'd fly before I went through another Earthquake.
Did I just say that?
Yep.
Did I just say that?
Yep.
Again to those of you who think "Oh it's no big deal." Go punch yourself in the face. People die in Earthquakes all the time, this time we/you were lucky. Get over yourself, you're not God you're not indestructible. And just because it's not your feelings doesn't mean it's any less important.
Fin.
Fin.
Sunday, August 14, 2011
What I believe.
Gay Marriage should be legal.
All narcotics should be legal.
If you want to be a hoarder, then be a hoarder.
"Click it or Ticket" should be banished.
Practice the religion you want.
Gays should be able to adopt.
Parental consent for abortions.
Voting age raised.
Euthanasia legalized.
Capital Punishment legalized.
There are more I'm sure, I just can't think of them. And now I will go deeper into why I believe this.
I'm 100% Christian, I love God and Jesus is my savior. I realize that only about 78% of Americans are Christian, which means 22% of Americans believe otherwise. I, nor the government, should tell people what to do. After all America is the "land of the free." If you are a homosexual and you are in love with your partner you should be able to get married. In the Bible, I have not read a thing on gay marriage being wrong, please correct me if I am wrong and please be able to back yourself up with FACTS.
Two dudes or chicks getting married does not affect my quality of life. Them being married does not hurt me or you, I'm married and it's not hurting them, so let them be happy and "allow" them to be married.
Every narcotic, yes every single one of them, should be legal. Why? Because remember when you were younger and your parents would say, "Don't touch that cake," and the second they walked out of the room you touched it? Personally, if you tell me not to do something, I'm most likely going to do it. The bum down the street getting stoned isn't doing anything to me, he's in his house toking up not bothering a soul. Why should he be penalized for what he does in HIS house? Now if bum goes outside on the street corner and starts selling it then I'm going to have a problem with that, he has officially affected and endangered other people and that's when it should be illegal.
When what you're doing affects the lives of others, that is wrong.
This next one goes along with the bum just mentioned. What you do in your house is your business, if you want to pile junk in your house to the ceiling, be my guest. No one should be able to come into your house and say, "Because you're a hoarder you can't take care of yourself and so now Adult Protective Services will be contacting you." No, that is wrong. If you have children or a spouse or even pets that is when someone should step in, you are endangering the lives of other people and beings. If you hoard things outside and it is causing rodents to run around your yard and your neighbors, then that is also when someone should step in. If it's just an eye sore to other people, they need to get over it.
If you don't feel like buckling up in your car, you shouldn't have to. I wouldn't do it, because I don't feel like flying through a windshield, but if you want to make that decision you shouldn't end up with a ticket. You're in your car, you are not endangering anyone other than yourself and the government shouldn't tell us what to do.
Please buckle up though, it's just not safe to ride around without doing that.
America the free, my butt. Like I said I'm Christian, you might be Muslim, Buddhist, Pagan, or Atheist. I respect your beliefs and maybe I don't agree with them and you don't agree with mine, but until you start blowing things up or shoving your beliefs down my throat I don't have a problem with you.
And for all you crazies out there, Christianity and Muslim are basically the same exact religion, what we call our God is really the only difference. The President should be able to swear in on whatever he feels like, if it's the Bible, the Qur'an, a novel whatever means something to him. If the Bible has no significance to the person then he or she swearing on it isn't going to take anything seriously.
Abortion, while I don't agree with it, should be legal until a certain point in the pregnancy, once that heart starts beating it should be considered murder and should be treated that way. You killed a living thing and you should receive the same punishment anyone else would. If you are underage, ie: under lets say 18, you should need parental consent. Teenagers have not fully developed their frontal lobe and are unable to make proper decisions and cannot think about the consequences, a parent or guardian should be able to help make that decision.
With that said about the frontal lobe, I think the voting age should be raised. An 18 year old is too involved with keg parties, who's sleeping with who, and the latest celeb gossip. They will follow the crowd and vote for who their "bestie" of the moment votes for. They will not base their opinion upon facts and who actually is going to be the best President. Raise that junk!
If people wanna die, let 'em die.
If you rape someone with a broomstick then cut their extremities off one by one while the victim is still alive and let them bleed to death while you poke them with an ice pick. You should die the EXACT same way. And I think that's enough explanation.
Fin.
All narcotics should be legal.
If you want to be a hoarder, then be a hoarder.
"Click it or Ticket" should be banished.
Practice the religion you want.
Gays should be able to adopt.
Parental consent for abortions.
Voting age raised.
Euthanasia legalized.
Capital Punishment legalized.
There are more I'm sure, I just can't think of them. And now I will go deeper into why I believe this.
I'm 100% Christian, I love God and Jesus is my savior. I realize that only about 78% of Americans are Christian, which means 22% of Americans believe otherwise. I, nor the government, should tell people what to do. After all America is the "land of the free." If you are a homosexual and you are in love with your partner you should be able to get married. In the Bible, I have not read a thing on gay marriage being wrong, please correct me if I am wrong and please be able to back yourself up with FACTS.
Two dudes or chicks getting married does not affect my quality of life. Them being married does not hurt me or you, I'm married and it's not hurting them, so let them be happy and "allow" them to be married.
Every narcotic, yes every single one of them, should be legal. Why? Because remember when you were younger and your parents would say, "Don't touch that cake," and the second they walked out of the room you touched it? Personally, if you tell me not to do something, I'm most likely going to do it. The bum down the street getting stoned isn't doing anything to me, he's in his house toking up not bothering a soul. Why should he be penalized for what he does in HIS house? Now if bum goes outside on the street corner and starts selling it then I'm going to have a problem with that, he has officially affected and endangered other people and that's when it should be illegal.
When what you're doing affects the lives of others, that is wrong.
This next one goes along with the bum just mentioned. What you do in your house is your business, if you want to pile junk in your house to the ceiling, be my guest. No one should be able to come into your house and say, "Because you're a hoarder you can't take care of yourself and so now Adult Protective Services will be contacting you." No, that is wrong. If you have children or a spouse or even pets that is when someone should step in, you are endangering the lives of other people and beings. If you hoard things outside and it is causing rodents to run around your yard and your neighbors, then that is also when someone should step in. If it's just an eye sore to other people, they need to get over it.
If you don't feel like buckling up in your car, you shouldn't have to. I wouldn't do it, because I don't feel like flying through a windshield, but if you want to make that decision you shouldn't end up with a ticket. You're in your car, you are not endangering anyone other than yourself and the government shouldn't tell us what to do.
Please buckle up though, it's just not safe to ride around without doing that.
America the free, my butt. Like I said I'm Christian, you might be Muslim, Buddhist, Pagan, or Atheist. I respect your beliefs and maybe I don't agree with them and you don't agree with mine, but until you start blowing things up or shoving your beliefs down my throat I don't have a problem with you.
And for all you crazies out there, Christianity and Muslim are basically the same exact religion, what we call our God is really the only difference. The President should be able to swear in on whatever he feels like, if it's the Bible, the Qur'an, a novel whatever means something to him. If the Bible has no significance to the person then he or she swearing on it isn't going to take anything seriously.
Abortion, while I don't agree with it, should be legal until a certain point in the pregnancy, once that heart starts beating it should be considered murder and should be treated that way. You killed a living thing and you should receive the same punishment anyone else would. If you are underage, ie: under lets say 18, you should need parental consent. Teenagers have not fully developed their frontal lobe and are unable to make proper decisions and cannot think about the consequences, a parent or guardian should be able to help make that decision.
With that said about the frontal lobe, I think the voting age should be raised. An 18 year old is too involved with keg parties, who's sleeping with who, and the latest celeb gossip. They will follow the crowd and vote for who their "bestie" of the moment votes for. They will not base their opinion upon facts and who actually is going to be the best President. Raise that junk!
If people wanna die, let 'em die.
If you rape someone with a broomstick then cut their extremities off one by one while the victim is still alive and let them bleed to death while you poke them with an ice pick. You should die the EXACT same way. And I think that's enough explanation.
Fin.
Saturday, August 13, 2011
Witty title about me being self-righteous.
I was called self-righteous by someone a few weeks ago and as much as I wish it wouldn't, it has been bothering me. As much as I say, "I couldn't careless what you say or think about me," truth is, a part of me does, I have a frontal lobe just like everyone and sometimes things hurt.
I keep wondering, "am I self-righteous?" and "why is that bad?" I understand society has made being self-righteous a bad thing, and some times it is, but why should someone be upset or scared of being who they are?
I'm not and will never apologize for who I am, maybe I am self-righteous, and maybe you are too, that's fine. Yes I hold myself to a high standard, everyone should. Maybe I'm better than some people, but I've earned that, I've worked to make myself better, I've learned things and continue to learn and that makes me, as a human, better. If you want to rank me against others then fine, that's what you do, I don't like saying "I'm better than you," because I don't think that's right.
I've set myself to a higher standard than what some other people have and I'm proud of myself and the choices I have made.
I was told today that I "attack" people for being wrong. I'm not going to say I don't attack people, but when you're being ignorant, I don't have much patience for that, especially when it comes to things you should know. Like how to spell and how to talk.
I said, "If you're a high school graduate then you should know the basics of grammar and spelling." There is no word in the English language that is spelled, "ur" it's "your" or "you're," there is no "wit" or "dis," it's "with" and "this." Can this come across as me attacking you? Probably, but I'd rather the world not be filled with idiots.
The rebuttal was, "what if there's a reason why they don't know the difference?" Then you shouldn't have graduated.
Public schools, I get it, are awful, I was lucky to go to a high school that wasn't too crappy, if you went to a school that sucked at teaching and you basically have the reading comprehension of a fifth grader, instead of getting butt hurt I think there should be some thanks involved. Is that self-righteous, most definitely, I admit it. However, would you rather be considered ignorant and idiotic and do nothing with your life or actually make something of yourself and have a good life???
If I say something on my blog that offends you and makes you think badly of me, you don't have to read my blog I'm not forcing you. If I say something directly to you that offends you, please let me know so I don't do it again and I can apologize. I have no way of knowing if I have offended you if you don't tell me.
I'm self-righteous and proud of it. Sorry if you're offended.
I keep wondering, "am I self-righteous?" and "why is that bad?" I understand society has made being self-righteous a bad thing, and some times it is, but why should someone be upset or scared of being who they are?
I'm not and will never apologize for who I am, maybe I am self-righteous, and maybe you are too, that's fine. Yes I hold myself to a high standard, everyone should. Maybe I'm better than some people, but I've earned that, I've worked to make myself better, I've learned things and continue to learn and that makes me, as a human, better. If you want to rank me against others then fine, that's what you do, I don't like saying "I'm better than you," because I don't think that's right.
I've set myself to a higher standard than what some other people have and I'm proud of myself and the choices I have made.
I was told today that I "attack" people for being wrong. I'm not going to say I don't attack people, but when you're being ignorant, I don't have much patience for that, especially when it comes to things you should know. Like how to spell and how to talk.
I said, "If you're a high school graduate then you should know the basics of grammar and spelling." There is no word in the English language that is spelled, "ur" it's "your" or "you're," there is no "wit" or "dis," it's "with" and "this." Can this come across as me attacking you? Probably, but I'd rather the world not be filled with idiots.
The rebuttal was, "what if there's a reason why they don't know the difference?" Then you shouldn't have graduated.
Public schools, I get it, are awful, I was lucky to go to a high school that wasn't too crappy, if you went to a school that sucked at teaching and you basically have the reading comprehension of a fifth grader, instead of getting butt hurt I think there should be some thanks involved. Is that self-righteous, most definitely, I admit it. However, would you rather be considered ignorant and idiotic and do nothing with your life or actually make something of yourself and have a good life???
If I say something on my blog that offends you and makes you think badly of me, you don't have to read my blog I'm not forcing you. If I say something directly to you that offends you, please let me know so I don't do it again and I can apologize. I have no way of knowing if I have offended you if you don't tell me.
I'm self-righteous and proud of it. Sorry if you're offended.
The Help.
Yesterday I saw the movie, The Help.
It was an amazing movie, it was eye opening, moving, and funny. It made me think a lot about my culture and other cultures as well, mainly "African American."
**This blog might be offensive to some people, just a warning.**
Let me start off by doing a little background about myself and what I believe on the "African American" community. I guess I'll start with why I keep putting "African American" in quotes. Because you're not from Africa.
Unless you were born in Africa and moved to the U.S., you are not labeled "African American," you are, sorry to say, an American. Your ancestors were from Africa, yes. THEY were African Americans. My family is from Russia, but I have never labeled myself, "Russian American," that's just silly.
To continue, I have never thought of myself as being racist, I don't like racists and I do not like when people, this part is important, whether you are black, white, Asian, African, German, or French, use the "n" word. How do you expect people to stop calling you that when you, being black people, call each other that? That is the definition of "insane." Stop calling each other the "n" word, even if it ends in "igga," and people will stop calling you that. Monkey see, monkey do, and no that was not meant in any sort of derogatory way.
We all know I'm a stickler when it comes to grammar and they way people talk. If you talk ignorant, people are going to treat you ignorant. I stand firm on this, but The Help and Devin's immense knowledge of junk have given me more of an understanding on why black people speak the way they do.
I will enlighten you on what was brought to my attention.
During the slave days and even after, black people were not allowed to talk "well." It was seen as black people trying to be as good as or better than white people and they were hung. To save their lives they spoke the way we are all familiar with, even if they were brilliant. This dialect was passed down through the generations and has even made it to the twenty-first century.
With that said, this is the twenty-first century, I understand your ancestors suffered a lot, I understand your culture and heritage means a lot to you. Don't make yourself look ignorant anymore. Rise above all of that hate and racism. So many people fought to give you the life you have today, many of them lost their lives for you and what are you doing now??? Look around you, if you're white or black or any color, what do you think of when you think of the twenty-first century black person? I'll be honest, I think ignorance, violence, trashy, sex, drugs and welfare. None of those are good. I'm sure you're reading this saying "omg she's racist." No I'm not, I'm honest. What do I think of when I think about black people in the 60's? Strong, powerful, leaders, brave, courageous, smart, amazing, loving, forgiving, there are so many more, but I'd be here for a while. All of those are good. I don't understand how you can be so proud of your ancestors and shove it in peoples faces that "my ancestors were slaves they died because of you white people,"(who is racist now?) but all you're doing now is gathering welfare and dealing drugs on the street corner and on some days go shoot up some house because they owe you money??? Be proud of who you are. Every single person has had ancestors who have suffered, it's part of humanity, people are still suffering, people are still slaves, be the person your ancestors fought for.
With that said, I'll get back to the movie. Like I said, it was amazing! I couldn't believe that some white families would actually make their black maids use a different restroom than what they used. They would actually build an outhouse so the maid could use it, because "black people spread disease." That's ridiculous, and whats more, you wont let her use your restroom, but you'll let her hold and raise your child, make your meals and do your laundry? That's not going to spread disease???
People were and still are ignorant, just because someone is different from you doesn't mean they're a bad person, it means they're beautiful and wonderful just like you. People need to get over their differences and start to love each other, everything would be so much better, but alas, that is never going to happen.
Say what you will about me, call me a racist, call me what ever you please, but know they're just words and at the end of the day, whatever you call me isn't going to help you sleep any better.
"Ever morning, until you dead in the ground, you gone have to make this decision. You gone have to ask yourself, "Am I gone believe what them fools say about me today?"
-Constantine, The Help
It was an amazing movie, it was eye opening, moving, and funny. It made me think a lot about my culture and other cultures as well, mainly "African American."
**This blog might be offensive to some people, just a warning.**
Let me start off by doing a little background about myself and what I believe on the "African American" community. I guess I'll start with why I keep putting "African American" in quotes. Because you're not from Africa.
Unless you were born in Africa and moved to the U.S., you are not labeled "African American," you are, sorry to say, an American. Your ancestors were from Africa, yes. THEY were African Americans. My family is from Russia, but I have never labeled myself, "Russian American," that's just silly.
To continue, I have never thought of myself as being racist, I don't like racists and I do not like when people, this part is important, whether you are black, white, Asian, African, German, or French, use the "n" word. How do you expect people to stop calling you that when you, being black people, call each other that? That is the definition of "insane." Stop calling each other the "n" word, even if it ends in "igga," and people will stop calling you that. Monkey see, monkey do, and no that was not meant in any sort of derogatory way.
We all know I'm a stickler when it comes to grammar and they way people talk. If you talk ignorant, people are going to treat you ignorant. I stand firm on this, but The Help and Devin's immense knowledge of junk have given me more of an understanding on why black people speak the way they do.
I will enlighten you on what was brought to my attention.
During the slave days and even after, black people were not allowed to talk "well." It was seen as black people trying to be as good as or better than white people and they were hung. To save their lives they spoke the way we are all familiar with, even if they were brilliant. This dialect was passed down through the generations and has even made it to the twenty-first century.
With that said, this is the twenty-first century, I understand your ancestors suffered a lot, I understand your culture and heritage means a lot to you. Don't make yourself look ignorant anymore. Rise above all of that hate and racism. So many people fought to give you the life you have today, many of them lost their lives for you and what are you doing now??? Look around you, if you're white or black or any color, what do you think of when you think of the twenty-first century black person? I'll be honest, I think ignorance, violence, trashy, sex, drugs and welfare. None of those are good. I'm sure you're reading this saying "omg she's racist." No I'm not, I'm honest. What do I think of when I think about black people in the 60's? Strong, powerful, leaders, brave, courageous, smart, amazing, loving, forgiving, there are so many more, but I'd be here for a while. All of those are good. I don't understand how you can be so proud of your ancestors and shove it in peoples faces that "my ancestors were slaves they died because of you white people,"(who is racist now?) but all you're doing now is gathering welfare and dealing drugs on the street corner and on some days go shoot up some house because they owe you money??? Be proud of who you are. Every single person has had ancestors who have suffered, it's part of humanity, people are still suffering, people are still slaves, be the person your ancestors fought for.
With that said, I'll get back to the movie. Like I said, it was amazing! I couldn't believe that some white families would actually make their black maids use a different restroom than what they used. They would actually build an outhouse so the maid could use it, because "black people spread disease." That's ridiculous, and whats more, you wont let her use your restroom, but you'll let her hold and raise your child, make your meals and do your laundry? That's not going to spread disease???
People were and still are ignorant, just because someone is different from you doesn't mean they're a bad person, it means they're beautiful and wonderful just like you. People need to get over their differences and start to love each other, everything would be so much better, but alas, that is never going to happen.
Say what you will about me, call me a racist, call me what ever you please, but know they're just words and at the end of the day, whatever you call me isn't going to help you sleep any better.
"Ever morning, until you dead in the ground, you gone have to make this decision. You gone have to ask yourself, "Am I gone believe what them fools say about me today?"
-Constantine, The Help
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